Before you look for a Dominant, I would suggest that you look at the person. Let me explain:
Before one can be your Dominant, He/She has to first be compatible with you as a person.
Look for someone who is compatible with you in vanilla ways.
These include financial, political, religious, social and spiritual beliefs.
Child rearing philosophies, if applicable are crucial. Look for a person who you feel compatible with in many ways and someone you feel safe with.
Observe their temperament. See how they treat their family and friends and how they are treated.
Is He/She respected by the community, leather and otherwise?
See how He/She handles failure and success.
Does He/She have the time to commit to a relationship?
Is He/She a person of character?
After these topics are addressed, then turn your attention to Him/her as a potential Dominant.
What are His/Her D/s philosophies?
Where does He/She reside on the BDSM acronym relative to you? (ie. A sensual Dominant is likely not compatible with a masochist).
Decide if He/She has the capability to teach you, to lead you.
What is His/Her play style?
Are you compatible sexually?
Are you compatible in terms of monogamy/polygamy?
Once all of these are answered, you will be completely at ease with surrendering all to someone you have come to trust enough to call "Master/Mistress".
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